News that I missed, courtesy of The Babylon Bee:
You’ve heard of toxic masculinity. But what about toxic femininity? Toxic femininity is women injecting themselves into oppressed males’ spaces, asserting their dominance, and making males feel unwelcome. They do this in subtle, sometimes insidious ways, but if you spend every waking moment getting mad about it and thinking really hard, you can learn to recognize the signs of toxic femininity:
1. Womanspreading their throw pillows all over the bed. A key element of toxic femininity is that women assert their dominance over spaces they feel they own, minimizing their man’s feelings. The main way they do this is by putting 300 pillows on the bed. It’s also a suffocation hazard inciting violence on husbands.
2. Gaslighting you by telling you things are fine when they are not fine. Get out of this toxic relationship!
3. Asking you to get them a water “since you’re already up.” First it’s a water, then they want you to get them a Hot Pocket, then a blanket, and the next thing you know you’re driving around at midnight looking for a Baskin-Robbins that’s open because she wants a quart of Daquiri Ice right this instant, Kyle! Or whatever your name happens to be.
4. Turning the thermostat on high because they’re “cold and it’s the middle of winter and it’s 20 degrees outside” when there’s a perfectly good winter coat and pair of mittens in the closet. A real microaggression.
5. Putting on makeup while driving. Nothing says “I am oppressing all you males with my toxic feminineness” like swerving across four lanes of traffic while she plumps her eyebrows.
6. Driving. Come to think of it, women just driving is pretty toxic, makeup or no.
7. Microaggressing your bathroom space with all her bottles and hairbrushes and essential oils. Men often feel unsafe when women dominate their spaces. When men have only a bottle or two and their wives have 77 different lotions and spices and oils and salts scattered all over the bathroom, it’s a sign of white female supremacy.
8. Callously taking up all your time when you’re really hungry by making you guess what she wants for dinner when she knows all along what she really wants but she just won’t come out and say it for goodness’ sake. This is a manipulative tactic used by matriarchal oppressors since caveman times, when cavewomen wouldn’t reveal whether they wanted moss or fresh clubbed wooly mammoth for dinner.
Go here to read the rest. No comment Bee, yes that would be safest, except to note that one thing I have learned over 39 years of being happily married is that having at least two bathrooms in a house is a very good thing. Oh, and that God made us men and women to compliment and complete each other, but I doubt if He intended either sex to really understand the other!
Yes, the mysteries of women. They need to be a little manipulative due to their various weaknesses. Men need to recognize what they are dealing with along with their own faults.
“It’s not about the nail.”
Me being a man, and an engineer who loves to solve problems for a living, and a project manager driven to fix things -makes this all the more mystifying on a daily basis. My wife says “not everyone “thinks” like you do.”
I concur and surrender.
How a Nuclear physicist views micro-theology would be an easier topic to comprehend….(smiley face inserted here)
As an Industrial Designer, who works with Graphic Designers and Interior Designers, I’ve sent this video to dozens of Construction Managers.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s33ScN4D-HU
That is great JFK! What a magnificent film that was. At the law mines I choose the paintings. Everything else in regard to decoration is chosen by the secretaries.
My wife will often simply complain about something, and I get it or fix it, even if it’s something she could get or do herself. With the kids older now (less in Dad always does stage) I’ve confronted her on this and she gave a crooked smile. Thing is, I don’t think she was cognizant of it either, it’s kind of a instinctual thing that she realized too when I called it out. I still jump in to action most times because I just want peace 🙂 and I want to fix things. Argh.
. Gaslighting you by telling you things are fine when they are not fine. Get out of this toxic relationship!
::laughs:: I’ve started saying “I will be fine” because that phrasing annoyed my darling half-elf.
The implicit question is “give me a target to fix so you feel better.”
I know a lot of things can’t be fixed. So “I’m fine.” But then he was upset because I was, quite obviously, not fine. Trying to talk it out was frustrating for him and embarrassing for me. (It sucks to do 45 minutes of “I don’t know.”)
I have to watch falling into cross examination mode when having discussions with my Bride. Efficient information gathering is my goal, but it is as off-putting as Hades. She has learned over the years that I can concentrate on a conversation or I can perform the task I am working on, but I can’t do both simultaneously, which she is pretty good at. I have learned not to rush her which is a no no. A successful marriage is very much a learning process on both sides.
When my two daughters were home and sharing a room, I learned not to engage them both simultaneously in verbal argumentation. I would instead:
1. Make a statement like “please clean your room”.
2. Be silent and point.