Childless and Loving It!
- Donald R. McClarey
Donald R. McClarey
Cradle Catholic. Active in the pro-life movement since 1973. Father of three, one in Heaven, and happily married for 43 years. Small town lawyer and amateur historian. Former president of the board of directors of the local crisis pregnancy center for a decade.
I know it’s parody but if the said woman was put on the pill at age 14 by her mother and brought up to our career over family then I have some empathy. There are also people with childhood trauma who choose not to have kids for that reason. It’s the selfish, in-your-face variety who are shameless.
I find it difficult to have empathy for the DINK Influencer couples (yes another acronym which stands for Dual Income No Kids), who are loud and proud about their childless “lifestyles”. It’s as though they hit the pavement in their post-adolescence phase and just stuck themselves there permanently.
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-11726367/Meet-DINKs-dual-income-no-kids-couples-raking-millions-TikTok-fans-lifestyle.html
Having meaningless sex is how childless women often become single mothers. If she was out clubbing until 4am, she ain’t waking up at six unless she has to make a mad dash to porcelain altar to offer up an internal sacrifice because she had a few too many Mai tais.
Kind of unsubtle. The childless woman I know best includes one who put off child-bearing while she and her husband got their schooling sorted out, was then discarded by said husband at the age of 31, and, while licking her wounds from that, discovered that her uterus had been ruined by fibroid tumors. Another is an amiable procrastinator who finished her schooling rather late in life (32) and who up to age 35 had encountered just two men who could interest her for longer than a summer. She found her intended at age 28, but they could not make a decision on where to live and what to do (beyond where they were living and working) and eventually events took over. The event in question was leukemia, which she survived but which wrecked her fertility; they’re more-or-less satisfied with the life they have, but have some regrets. The third was clueless about a number of things, but the main one in re this discussion was in not realizing that you have to make some heavy compromises if you don’t marry by age 30. She didn’t take the one chance she had, and hardly got any attention from men after that (her worklife was also a self-inflicted disaster, unlike the others). None of these women were promiscuous or given to boozing in nightclubs. None were ambitious.